Finding Neicy!

HMMM well the names Ronniecia aka Neicy. I'm 22, Vincentian,black and on the heavy side.

  1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

    2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

    3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

    4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

    5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

    6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

    7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

    8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

    9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

    10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

    11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

    12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

    14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

    15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

    16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

—Sixteen Small Steps to Happiness  (via cardioconfidence)

Gotta remember some of these.

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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie quotables...

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[A series of quotes from author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie on colored squares with certain words enlarged for emphasis.

1. Power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person.

2. Show a people as one thing, only one thing,over and over again, and that is what they become.

3. Our histories cling to us. We are shaped by where we come from.

4. A student told me it was such a shame the Nigerian men were physical abusers like the father character in my novel. I told him that I had recently read a novel called American Psycho and that it was a shame that young americans were serial murderers.

5. I often make the mistake of thinking that something that is obvious to me is obvious to everyone else.

6. His advice to me (and he was shaking his head sadly as he spoke) was that I should never call myself a feminist because feminists are women who are unhappy because they cannot find husbands.

7. At some point I was a Happy African Feminist who does not hate men. And who likes lip gloss and wears high heels for herself and not for men.

8. About 52% of the world’s population are women. But most of the positions of power and prestige are occupied by men. The late Kenyan Nobel Peace Laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, “The higher you go, the fewer women there are.”

9. Because of writers like Chinua Achebe and Camara Laye…I realized that people like me, girls with skin the color of chocolate, who’s kinky hair could not form ponytails, could also exist in literature.

10. My college roommate asked if she could listen to what she called my ‘tribal music,’ and was very disappointed when I produced my tape of Mariah Carey.]

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I’ve bolded the first three quotes because if there is anything this blog is about, that’s a pretty great summary. Thanks to lo-fem for the accessibility.And also because Chimamanda Adichie is a human tour de force.

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Video: “The Danger of a Single Story”

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